Allah Almighty states in the Holy Quran:

وَالْکٰظِمِیۡنَ الْغَیۡظَ وَالْعَافِیۡنَ عَنِ النَّاسِؕ وَاللہُ یُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِیۡنَ﴿۱۳۴﴾ۚ

  Those who restrain anger and who pardon men. And virtuous people are dear to Allah.

 (Aale ‘Imran 3, Verse 134)

Hadeeth:

وَعَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ – رضي الله عنه: أنَّ النَّبِيَّ – صلى الله عليه وسلم – قَالَ: «مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا، وَهُوَ قَادِرٌ عَلَى أَنْ يُنْفِذَهُ، دَعَاهُ اللهُ سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالٰى عَلَى رُؤُوْسِ الْخَلَائِقِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ حَتَّى يُخَيِّرَهُ مِنَ الْحُوْرِ الْعِيْنِ مَا شَاءَ».

 رواه أَبو داود والترمذي، وَقالَ: «حديث حسن».

Sayyiduna Mu’adh ibn Anas – may Allah be pleased with him – reported: The Holy Prophet – may Allah send peace and blessings upon him – said:

The one who swallows anger whereas he has the power to give effect to it, will be called out by Allah, the Exalted, to the forefront of the creation on the Day of Resurrection and he will be asked to choose from any of the virgins (Hur) of his liking.

(Sunan Abi Sawood, Tirmidhi said “The Hadeeth is Hasan”)

Commentary:

Imam Teebi – may Allah be pleased with him – writes the following while commenting on this Hadeeth:

The meaning of swallowing one’s anger is to be patience as well as forgive the person who incited the anger.  When one suppresses his anger he overcomes Nafs Ammarah.  Hence, the one who swallows his anger is praised in the Hadeeth.

(Sharh al-Teebi under Hadeeth No. 5088(

Your Vulgarity will not Harm Me:

A man once swore the Sahabi Sayyiduna Salman al-Farsi – may Allah be pleased with him.  Thereupon he said:

If my actions on the Mizan weigh less then I am even worse than that you allege me to be and if my actions weigh heavy then your vulgarity will not harm me at all.

(Ihya Uloom al-Deen Vol. 3, p. 212)

Sabr on Harsh Words:

Once, a man spoke to Sayyiduna ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdul ‘Azeez – may Allah be pleased with him – in extremely harsh manner.  He buried his head for quite some time and then said:

Do you want me to become week, giving in to the hands of satan and use my royal status as a ladder to get even with you, so tomorrow you take its revenge from me.

(Ihya Uloom al-Deen Vol. 3, p. 205)

What Causes One to Become Angry:

Sayyiduna Yahya – peace be upon him – asked Sayyiduna ‘Isa – peace be upon him, “What is the most difficult thing?”

He replied, “Allah’s Wrath.”

He then asked, “What is it that may lead closer to Allah’s Wrath?”

He replied, “Getting angry.”

He then asked, “What causes one to become angry?”

He replied:

> Pride

> Boastfulness

> Self-conceited honor

> False self-image of righteousness

(Ihya Uloom al-Deen Vol. 3, p. 212)

Lesson:

  • This Hadith mentions the distinction and reward of self-control of a man who, in spite of being powerful and having the means to avenge, suppresses his rage and does not exercise his power.
  • One should aspire to follow into the footsteps of our pious predecessors and incorporate into his life their methods of anger management.
  • When angry, one present the akhlaq one better than going lower in a fit of anger.
  • Those whose vision is fixated on the Akhirah do not indulge themselves in meaningless petty issues.
  • Always keep this beautiful verse of the Holy Quran as a motivation to win over your anger:

وَالْکٰظِمِیۡنَ الْغَیۡظَ وَالْعَافِیۡنَ عَنِ النَّاسِؕ وَاللہُ یُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِیۡنَ﴿۱۳۴﴾ۚ

  Those who restrain anger and who pardon men. And virtuous people are dear to Allah.

 (Aale ‘Imran 3, Verse 134)

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