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It is reported that Hadrat Sayyiduna ‘Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu once had a wife named “Aasiyah” whose meaning was “disobedient.” However, if there were names whose meanings were not appropriate, the Holy Prophet Sallal Laahu ‘Alayhi Wasallam was in the habit of changing this name. Consequently, he had the name the “Aasiyah” changed to “Jamilah.”


The son of Hadrat Sayyiduna ‘Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu, Hadrat Aasim, was from this mother. While Hadrat Aasim was young, his father had given Aasim’s mother divorce. This was in the time of Hadrat Sayyiduna Abu Bakr Radi Allahu ‘Anhu. Hadrat Sayyiduna ‘Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu used to live in Quba and he later settled in Madina shareef.


One day, Hadrat Sayyiduna ‘Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu was travelling through Quba when he saw Hadrat Aasim in the company of other children. As a father would normally do out of love for his child, he hugged his son and made him sit on his horse with him. He also wanted to take his son with him. However, someone had informed the mother, Jameelah, of what was happening and she came running. She then grabbed the reins of the horse and declared that Asim was her beloved son and that she would not allow him to leave. She also told Hadrat Sayyiduna ‘Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu that she would only allow Hadrat Aasim to stay with her and that Hadrat Sayyiduna ‘Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu was not allowed to take him with him.


However, Hadrat Sayyiduna ‘Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu was not prepared to leave his son and this became a long and heated debate. Finally, this issue was presented in the court of Hadrat Sayyiduna Abu Bakr Radi Allahu ‘Anhu. Both of them presented their sides of the story and their own respective testimony.


After listening to both sides, Hadrat Sayyiduna Abu Bakr Radi Allahu ‘Anhu informed everyone that Asim was to live with his mother. Such were the greatness of these blessed souls that when Hadrat Sayyiduna Umar Radi Allahu ‘Anhu heard this decision, he merely lowered his head and said nothing. The little boy was then left with his mother. (Al Farouq, 12)